Although we’ve come a long way in accepting different sexual orientations and things that turn us on, some things are simply not okay. In case you’re feeling kinky, you mustn’t overlook two things — SSC and RACK. The first one stands for “safe, sane, and consensual” and the other one is “risk-aware consensual kink.” Neither are optional but fully required for safe and legal sexual intercourse. But, let’s talk about bedroom ideas that ignore these rules and shouldn’t be practiced, shall we?
Getting Hyped by Autoerotic Asphyxiation Kink
You don’t have to be a movie buff to know the name David Carradine. Starring in countless exploitation flicks, camp masterpieces like “Death Race 2000,” and more mainstream-friendly titles like “Kill Bill: Volume 2,” Carradine is probably the most famous person to have died while enjoying autoerotic asphyxiation.
This kink involves choking yourself for pleasure by cutting off oxygen to your brain. As such, it leads to over 1,000 deaths in America every year. Most of them aren’t suicides, however, but dangerous sex plays gone wrong. People do it with ropes or plastic bags over their heads while pleasing themselves, passing out, and eventually dying.
Nevertheless, if you have a thing for breath play, our only advice would be to do it while fully sober and with someone you can trust.
Inflicting Body Injury With Disfigurement Fetish
It’s not uncommon to hear people talk about BDSM and get it fully wrong. Numerous factors, including the mainstream portrayal of the kink, cause people to think of it as something wrong, dangerous, and not normal.
However, aside from bad press, there are BDSM kinksters who make it hard for the whole community with their dangerous practices. Namely, we’re talking about people who dream about permanently disfiguring their partners or themselves.
No matter if there’s consent present, injuring someone or disfiguring their body is simply wrong. Moreover, the law sees it as a criminal offense, so don’t fool yourself into thinking you can get away with it. Simply put, don’t do it. It’s not okay.
Bug Chasing on the Internet
Isn’t it great how far we’ve come with social media apps like Tinder? In a few clicks on our mobile phone, we can match with another person and have sex. Nevertheless, it’s not all peachy on such apps. Recently, more and more HIV-negative people have been trying to bug chase HIV-positive partners online, and it’s disturbing.
But don’t get us wrong. We’re not trying to shame people with HIV. But bug chasing is wrong because people do it to become infected. Not only are criminalization laws concerning HIV strict and not only will judges not believe whose idea it was to spread the virus, but because it undermines the struggle of people living with it as well as others in the community, they will not go easy on you in court.
Self-destructing behavior isn’t something you should indulge in. There’s nothing sexy about a virus, especially during COVID-19 times.
Can’t Get a Hold of Frotteurism
Is there anything more awful than groping people in a packed subway? In most cases, this happens when males begin to touch women and they don’t call for help due to social stigma or simply shame. It’s more than disturbing, and it still keeps happening in, say, Japan — all the time. Unfortunately, some folks get off on this, and it’s called frotteurism.
There’s nothing okay with groping people in public transport or crowded places. It’s nonconsensual and doesn’t have anything to do with the two terms that we’ve previously mentioned. No SSC and no RACK. Moreover, it’s a criminal offense, and you should stop people or call for help if you see them practicing it.
Start a Bad Day With Somnophilia
Lots of us get ideas about sex by watching porn. However, not everything you see in sex scenes can work in real life. In fact, creeper porn where people jack off or penetrate partners while they sleep isn’t okay outside of acting. This fetish is what we know as somnophilia, and it means getting off on people sleeping or waking them up sexually.
The reason it’s bad is the fact that sleeping people can’t give consent, making it molestation and sex abuse. No matter if the two of you are in a relationship, waking them up abruptly by giving them oral won’t mean they’ll be okay with it. If you want to engage in it, one of you can act that they’re asleep, and it will be more than enough to satisfy your urges.
Their Sex Life Is in Necrophilia
It’s okay if you didn’t hear about a little film called “Necromantic.” This is an obscure German exploitation title forbidden in many countries. It tells a story about a couple that enjoys corpses in a sexual way. So, what’s wrong with necrophilia? Well, dead bodies can’t give consent, and it’s the worst form of disrespect you can give.
On the other hand, it’s not safe to have sex with a corpse. Due to it being dead, a body will begin to decompose and will be a breeding ground for bacteria. Even if the consent and disrespect parts weren’t enough, this surely should be. Interestingly enough, not all states in America see necrophilia as illegal. North Carolina and Louisiana weirdly allow it.
Turning Up a Hot Scene With Pyrophilia
Lastly, we’d like to talk about pyrophilia. This is a relatively uncommon fetish, and most people don’t even know it exists. It’s pretty dangerous, and we don’t see any way of practicing it safely. In short, it’s a kink about seeing open flame or starting a fire even while having sex. Not to confuse you, but the sex part is what separates it from pyromania.
Psychiatrists consider pyrophilia to be an impulse-control disorder. But why is it wrong? Well, it mostly has to do with things burning, mainly bodies and people. Also, setting a fire outside of BBQs and campfires isn’t something you should do. It can quickly spiral out of control and endanger not only you but others in your vicinity.
Yet, traces of this paraphilia can be seen in pop culture too. For example, some characters in “Game of Thrones” are into it, especially Aerys Targaryen, the mad king. Furthermore, it’s a prominent theme in Ricardo Abdallah’s book, “Pyretta Blaze.” In case you don’t know about it, there’s a Type O Negative song inspired by it. Don’t check it out. It sucks ass.